I often hear from couples for which trust is a huge issue. Usually, I hear from more wives than husbands on this topic but it’s clear that a trust is a large issue in many struggling marriages. Sometimes, the person writing has valid reasons to have trust issues. And other times, they are reacting from past relationships which have nothing to do with the trustworthiness of their spouse.
This is commonly known as the ‘single’ phase of your life. It is the point where you are on the prowl and you notice the opposite sex more often than usual. It could be that you have only just entered this phase of your life, or you are newly single again after having come out of a relationship. Either way, this is an exiting time when most people feel attractive or they have a sense of freedom to date whomever they choose, whenever they choose. Some people choose to stay in this phase forever, mostly because they fear commitment and do not wish to settle down or they have sexual health issues. Either way, it is a good stage to be in, so enjoy it and have fun.
The Devil Wears Prada – This is hands-down one of our favorite movies to watch together; it seems that we just can’t get enough of the fashion world’s twisted version of Cinderella.
He still wants to date other people. Some guys just want to be able to meet more girls especially when they are undecided on what they really want in a girl. By being in a commitment, they are giving up their opportunity to discover themselves and the girl that they would be the happiest with.
Correct me if I’m wrong but a lot of guys surface from adolescence with a strong sense that strength is equated to not showing emotions. They think that crying kills their masculinity. Men are lead to believe that emotions and feelings are only for girls. Your man may have been raised in a household where he is told not to cry unless he is hurt. His dad may have reminded him all the time to tough it out. If this is the case, you have to realize that you can’t change the way he deals with his emotions overnight. You can’t just command a guy to cry or get emotional as soon as he walks into your life.
What you often need (instead of trying or hoping to read his mind) is a plan to change his mind. You can’t read, demand, or control his thoughts. But, if you play your cards right, you might be able to influence them. In my opinion and experience, this should be your focus on instead.
It does not matter which stage you are in right now, as long as you can recognise it and address what needs to be done in order to progress to where you want to be. You can meet someone in any of these five stages, so keep yourself open to the idea, but stop looking so hard.